After a day we tried to make things work, to make the relationship work. I check her WhatsApp status to see when she was on last. Yes she can learn to trust you again, it just takes time. After she got out of the hospital, I started to feel distance building. I then saw her again at a party and we didnt say anything at first. Never really had any problems. Also I am thinking I might be texting her too much lately. She asked for space which I had abused through my constant text messages a few days prior to this. Hello John, Hope youre well. Im feeling lots of things right now, but theyre no longer really how can I help her become a better version of herself, and instead they are more like I miss what we had and I miss her. Apollonias team, Hi Apollonia Im always holding her hand, kissing her, giving her foot and back rubs etc. Last 2 months we had some issues and kept fighting and I felt this relationship does not make me complete so 2 days after she left my country I broke up with her. Best, Will it be bad for me if I reach out to her on Sunday if I havent heard from her? Three days later its the same and she does call me and I answer or her 8 year calls me too which I answer as well but we dont talk like we used to when I was in jail, or before and after. 1 week passed by and she messaged me and we talked for 2 days straight and now were not currently speaking as maybe she went back to her space and I just found out recently that she deactivated her facebook account ONLY but kept the messenger open. My fiance of 5 years recently initiated a separation. I mean its only 7 days. I was giving her space and then she soad she wanted a break cause she had so much fun without me. Ive been listening to your channels for a long time now and I find your advice very impactfull, Im truly grateful for the opportunity to tap in. I read a lot of your blogs and I have a question. I have helped many couples overcome fidelity so you are in the right spot. Then about 10 days later I felt bad I didnt message her. best, Right now is the best time for you to reflect on yourself. I want her so bad man, Ive never felt this way about a woman. Thank you, hello Shes very successful in her career and travels the world. Insecure and depressed. She said she loves me but confused about me.then we had some short arguments. But I just want her as part of my life In laymans terms, gaslighting is the psychological manipulation of someone to make them doubt their sanity, particularly by encouraging them to doubt their own experiences or perceptions of reality. Do not call her. The article instructs us specifically not to text her. I am glad you are doing some counseling which is helping you learn about yourself. But before we go into this, I think its important for me to state one thing. Hi there, This happened 4 days ago and I have not done the best to give her space because of my fear of losing her. Listen & Dont Put Pressure On HerIf this seems like a no shit, Sherlock statement to you, congratulations. Youre smarter than 90% of guys out there.Give Her The Time She WantsTheres an old saying you should take to heart. No but seriously. When she asks for space, give it to her on her terms.Figure Out Why She Wants SpaceIf shes already told you why she wants to step back, then you can skip this step. But if she hasnt, and youre still Shes been rather cold and distant with me recently and its hard because weve never been like that before. When I got back from Christmas trip she noticed I changed a little bit but never mentioned anything and as a couple we talked about stuff. When she dropped me to the airport she gave me a few kisses, told me she loved me and I said 2020 is going to be our year she said we will see. I started changing things, I focused on improving myself. I would need more details and I know I can help you get to the bottom of all this. She was my staff but a few months ago ttansfered to another company. I think we both started feeling love for each other after a few months. btw, im living my life, keeping busy, meeting new people (but im not interested). 1 of our own and I took on 2 bonus kids. Hi my name is August Im a health care professional and work long hours I have a GF of almost 2 years and shes always nagging me about my work schedule this weekend she got very upset because I was called in to work last minute on an emergency, now I was upfront with her about my profession and work load, Im also divorced and have kids I regularly interact with and in fairness she has been flexible but she commented that I make her feel disposable and that I do whatever I want etc., not the case I dedicate as much as my free time to her as humanly possible at times going with out sleep to accommodate now she has informed me that she needs space and Ive given it to her she is also divorced and has some issues with me at times not being overly emotional Im confused HELP!!!? Best of luck with everything I said okay. She told me she wasnt sure and didnt know. any news ,how are you ecc, Hi Jhon. My heartbeat gets high when i see her online. No full on convo. She recently told me that everything I did agitated her. Everything was great! She never said she wanted to truly end it, she talked about how she was thinking about giving it more time and see if things work out but thinks it would be unfair to me knowing I will know she is unhappy and will make me become unhappy. Do not call them. You need these things. So I claim them as mine. Girlfriend for 4 months. What I would recommend is going 30 day no contact and making sure you get your emotions aligned with you so she does not take control of them. We texted for a few hours and had the break go into effect at midnight. The right thing to do is give her space and back away. So I asked her what do you want to do and she said she needs a break. It seems as though she has a lot going on and needs to find herself. she messaged the next day on how i couldnt be showing up like that and i scared her. I am willing to make changes to this for the sake of making this work because I love her, but we havent had anything like this happen to us before and Im not sure what to do. Thank you so much for your help on here and your YouTube channel, its honestly whats keeping me from lying in bed all day and crying, now I just lie there until noon on my days off lol. I have a feeling she Pershing her feeling from the talk before Christmas but why would she say shes so comfortable with me and willing to share anything with me to only counter dictate her own words. So ive met an amazing girl. You can do this! Im still at a loss here and Ill tell you everything. We will be close soon so Im hoping to see her ASAP. Not sure where to go from here? Did she explain why? Hope this helps! We both are fighting depression, but I just wanna be there for her and I feel lost without her. and been working on me to eat again and be healthy, what are the odds she comes back ? You have to work on making yourself happy so you can make others around you happy. Hi Eron, Hello Ashayne, Before last day when she was coming back i sensed she is not behaving normal so i asked her what is the matter, she said she is worried about future and thats where i got really tensed i asked her tell me what happened but she said once shes back she will talk to me. actually we didnt talk since 2 weeksbut i dont know what to do, should i contact her and just be positive and be like: hey! I know! I just wanted my peace and she didnt really know how to give me space which drove me to the point I made one more mistake making a flirty comment to a pretty lady on Twitter that I followed in March 2021. The main focus here is to work on your personal development. Hello Jayshawn, Everything was going fine we were not able to talk much which i understood she used to share pictures daily. Deep breaths. I know this is a bit complicated. Yesterday morning I saw she had a story on instagram (around the time she didnt text me back) at a candle lit restaurant with a drink across from some guy with a beard and tattoos and I know she likes both those things. We got really close and were even talking about marriage. Hello Patrick, Instead, i gave in to her request. Then I cleared my head a bit and told her that was selfish of me, and I was gonna give her the respect/trust she deserves and to call when shes ready to talk. Hi Appollonia, I thought (initially) that this statement led her to say she wasnt ready to build a relationship, but thinking back on it, it may help her in the long run? Many thanks for your Feminine essence of guidance for us men, Me a my girlfriend have been going out for over a year and everything was going great. I am so glad you enjoyed the articles! Sorry to hear that. I suggested doing so to see if things changed and fix it and also suggested to give us no contact space and reconnect in a month or two to let us work on ourselves because I did not want it to end and wanted to work things out. She texted me the next morning good morning and texted me later that day telling her about her daughters teeth. She is my classmate and now the exams are over. I know what its like, Read More Is She Playing Me? Today is Sunday and she went out with guys and girls both Saturday and Friday, and is not willing to tell me about her nights, which makes my anxiety about her potential relations with other men. But your very short and cold with no emotion when ever you do talk to me. Best, My girl and I go to the same school. I was dating a girl for about 5 months where we literally talked every single day, even though 5 months can be a short amount of time we did a lot of things together and amazing trips. She wasnt sure about our relationship. Thanks for the reply i dont think i am the Codependant or needy so much, s[ent half my life travelling and living overseas working in tourism and teaching so pretty open , independent and free, usually pretty happy alone travelled alone many years also , but definitely when have a woman i care about like to show her i care and love her, do things for her etc obviously I been doing it all wrong so definitely going to read those books (already downloaded them) as i am always willing to learn and improve myself .. And she suspected and caught onto me in August 2020. Determine what is healthy and what is not healthy. Hi Mario, In this time, because of how I was acting she told her parents about what I had done because she thought wed never be together again. 1. I wake up Sunday morning and i say good morning. I do not text her constantly I only text her to see if she wants to do something or a reply to her texts. So my gf is struggling with the thought of raising another child who is not hers, with someone and the fact that she and our relationship is bound because we cant just pack up and go when We want. I would love to help you with this. I like to know how can i win her back? How long should the space be ? 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I try to have a conversation with her and shes on her phone reading articles. Best, I asked her why and what did I do to make things so weird and she said she has a lot on her plate and shell just see me in social situations and she didnt want to get into specifics She sat in the car with me and began crying saying she hates her job and where she lives and her car is damaged and stuff I told her to not worry about the small things and just stay focused on her self and be happy with everything she has in life. Please help me. Should i send her subtle messages or anything like that? Thank you! Best, Let her work on her own things, we cannot change or fix anyone. I told her that I truly meant it and that I want to learn more about her faith and Im not doing it to solely be with her, but that Im always looking to better my life spiritually, emotionally, and physically and that I wanna come to her church every Sunday with her so I can meet her parents that way too (Ive never met her parents because theyre very strict and when we would hangout, she would have to sneak out of her house to see me late at night or we would have to get up super early before or after class to go on breakfast dates). I never did though, because she said she wanted to take it slow. I dont know what she wants me to do. What is going on? WebHow long? I got so afraid, that I might lose her. Starting the next day she went back to her old ways while we were together of texting good morning and throughout the day. In the meantime, work on finding happiness inside of yourself and not making someone else responsible for how you feel. I can go see her, we do talk, text and video chat but thats all. For example: Grumpy or Cranky This is when your partner is just snappy with you for no reason, and she is just not happy at the moment. keep up the great work. Then after 2 days she said i need space. I know this might not elicit a reply, but tried to take the advice when a girl i liked asked me to give her space. She told me that she still loves me but shes not in love with me atm and she said if she does come back she wants to be the one who puts in the effort to win me back I think that maybe for now we take I love her. When we talked I was calm and honest with her. Hello OG, how treat her when she call me every day in night for 5 minute ? So I tried to dig deeper and she says that she thought she was ready for a relationship and she did really like me and how I might now think that she led me on. At the age of 20 there is a lot of insecurities and I believe if you just let her know she will understand. What should be my reply to that? She told me that she wont leave me, just give her the time to breath. The thing you dont want to do is not give her space and try to reach out too much. Completely not what me or my family was expecting. We had another event booked but after this words I got my best female friend to come with me, we had a good party with good mood I needed it. Please help. That really upset me and I said to her that wasnt right and she deserved better. I already know the answer, but I would like to read your response. Hi Ani, She asked me if i dont feel guilty, i did not respond. 4-Day Transformational Mens Retreat. Went out with friends, had fun, and showes I am capable of living alone just as you advised here. This floored me. Much appreciated, Thank you so much. Best, She has to see the value in the relationship with you first. Apollonia, Hey Apollonia, Right off the bat, it seems to me that the both of you definitely still care for each other but I dont know the gravity of the situation or exact details. Continue to give her space and not tolerate her having both of you. Right now we have 3 weeks after no contact, we live in same city, we have same parties every weekend in clubs. Then she might even ask, Why are you in here and you can respond, I noticed you were having a moment and I thought giving you some time to yourself was best for the both of us with a warm smile. She was fine on Monday, but on tuesday morning she just sprung this on me. Thats why I created this article! Besides, I do not want to break the promises we both make together. Dont spend another second on this imbecile, move on and you will find a woman who sees your goodness and will appreciate you in her lifeand ultimately love you. If you get the chance Id like to inform you of it. Best, The first article was more on doing things and showing them you are committed. Well, she might continue to fall because she knows that youre going to be there to pick her up. What should I do? If she felt that you were suffocating her. It could just mean that shes feeling overwhelmed and needs some space. Customer Service Phone Number - 424 239 4800. Needless to say we didnt have sex there as her daughter slept with us. Apollonia, SEARCH IN THE CURRENT But is it too late? etc. I would encourage you to book a session here. Thanks for your comment and I know it can be a difficult time. I hope you can book a coaching session with me so we can dive further into this. But we have talked about getting married and having kids. Hello David, 2. Somehow after arguing , we apologize and get back. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/, i kept trying to call and in trust i called her frm another numberand said my name she hung up! The reason behind her stress wont go away soon though without getting in details. I brought up the topic of being exclusive and this drove her to request that space. They have a kid together and their son is crazy about him. Hi Apollonia, I recommend you to read this blog and share your comments after if you have questions as I know this can help. Apollonia. Im just battling with myself to try to say something to fix it vs. give her that 100% space and wait, wait , wait. I just wanna know what to do from here. Now is the time to let go, sit back and discover the man that you can be so you can show up differently as time goes on. The day before our first date she lost her job. Ugh. Best, I didnt get a response. We talked for awhile and she said text me later tonight. She used to make me feel like a macho stud, but now Im feeling more like a nerdy mamas boy. Hey Jaden. So if she is being disrespectful and going out and saying she isnt going to tell you then this is when you should walk away and go radio silent for a while. Best, Youre doing great. Then she went on a list of things that bothered her about me. It seemed to just come out of the blue. We have an incredible amount of valuable content on our youtube channel at no cost. She also said that I disregard her emotions and does not feel connected when we have sex. So I wait, I dont know how months it will take. My emotions immediately took over and I began to beg and plead for her not to do that. I find it difficult to not message at all, which I guess is also a problem. Seems like there may be something missing that is keeping her from committing to you. I am 29 years old, a nursing student. No contact is meant for you to change and look into the things that you brought into this relationship that made the both of you have troubles. Shes not worth your time. But i have a 24 year old girlfriend of almost 2 years. So I let it rock for a few hours and then we said goodnight. if ull lie about dumb things Noone cares about or going out with a male friend and I trusted u before until u forgot on the 3rd to mention he was going Im done small lies hide big ones Id rather be single and hang with my kids. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/ Hope that helps! I would stop contacting and do the no contact here. Texas. with a lot of evidence. Tyler, Ive also seen so many places in the past that I could have improved on I turned into someone that wasnt the man she fell for and I wish I could tell her that Im working on all of those aspects and traits in myself. I shushed my sister, after brunch me and my girlfriend went to the beach we had a good week, come Friday afternoon she told me wanted time for herself, and blocked me, I asked why but she seemed really bothered. Hi Sam, i dono what i did wrong to her for this response mam/sir! Hey Jon, If she does not you wont be around for it. She then turned up to my home and broke up with me. I come over on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays. You guys will find your balance again and shell feel more settled and in acceptance of whats happening soon and you guys can just pace through this. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/. Best, Online and she came to me first. Good luck! Is there any advice you could give, like should I give her space or what? I think right now is the time to focus on you 110%. Once we go over the details as of the relationship I will be able to give you a step by step process on what to do next. How do I know if their is hope still. Web4.1K views, 50 likes, 28 loves, 154 comments, 48 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from 7th District AME Church: Thursday Morning Opening Session Sorry to hear that youre going through this. Hey apollonia, I am 19 and have been dating my girlfriend 4 years now and she is 17, she has been having a hard time getting through her senior year and is going through a rough patch. Hey apollonia, i really appreciate what you are doing, i have been dating a girl 4years ago(no talk), we knew each other for 3years and broke up. My question is, do I have a chance to get her back now? I didnt plead for her to stay I textd her once or twice after breakup but I am giving her space now.. What would you advice me? https://www.apolloniaponti.com/OvercomeNeedinessSeminar The blog gives a few examples of what you could do to give her that space, how to go about it, and what it really means but if you would like further advice on it I would recommend speaking to a coach. We were together for 3 months and things developed extremely quick. In our daily routine we used to video call chat over text and call each other 3-4 times a day. I was getting so frustrated that I couldnt get straight answers. I know it says husband but just take the husband and replace it with wife this could give you guidance as well. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching-2/ This is all such a joke and Im so sick of playing these stupid mind games women always think everything is greener on the other side , nomatter what you do , their never happy I gave my girlfriend 4 years of MY life, only to let her do whatever she she wanted with her friends, then she says she needed more space? I respectfully honored her wishes 3 months ago. As hard as it is I havent text her since then. later that night i messaged her if she still wanted to and she said she couldnt so i said this i understand hope you guys get some rest goodnight and she wrote me a whole paragraph of how i was upset with her so the next day i went over again without telling her to explain to her that i wasnt upset. It is important to be She told me that she needed the space to sort her doubts and feelings out. You guys went really fast. Is this over and done, or should I attempt to reach within a week if no contact with her? I dont know what i should do the next 7 days. I realize i spend time wih her almost everyday.
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